Love and its objects

• In Giving

  • Love languages (the act, words as statements, gifts, physical touch as enunciation, and quality time) — as positive representations, substantiations, proofs for an underlying feeling or commitment — love as a positive object

  • Is love a thing one says or does?

  • Is the source of love, found in sexuality (as produced by nature), narcissism, power (masochism/sadism),

  • Vows in a wedding

  • Giving what one does not have

  • Love as an object of lack, negative object — offering lack — a thing that one has is what one does not — the frame in which we have an actual lack — giving the partner the very frame to see how we do not have what we ourselves want as the most precious — as that which dispossesses us — fear of losing ones’ affections

  • Sacrifice

• In receiving

  • I want to be in a relationship to be loved because I want to be loved

  • acknowledgement of the full self — in hiding away the ‘ugly’ parts we deny the possibility of a being in transparency